If someone berates and insults you and you roll over then you are being bullied and they are the bully.
If someone berates and insults you and you dare to comment back putting your side then it's called a frank exchange of views.
If someone berates and insults you aggressively and you fight back putting your side then it's called a frank exchange of views and you are not responsible for the others feelings no matter what they say.
Why is it that when some woman that berates and insults you and you have a frank exchange of views they feel entitled to play the 'you hurt my feelings' card?
Bugger the fact that I have feelings too and bugger the fact that I can be hurt!
A good example, after the frank exchange of (email) views with DTWNAD, I get the email that says in part;
You're entitled to your opinions of course but to be so personal and nastily vitriolic in them as to leave someone feeling threatened and in tears for most of the day is not the way any decent guy who respects women behaves.
Clearly this comment is about the authors 'me,me,me' complex and is crudely designed to gather sympathy and an apology. I take the view that I am not responsible for the interpretation that someone puts on my words. If you are confused, ask the question so that you understand. So no apology will be forthcoming, for if you write aggressively, dispassionately and rudely about me then I will comment back. End of!